How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk

The teen years can be painful for both teens and parents. Teenagers face a number of challenges these days and so does the parents. The more the society changes overtime the more challenges faced by the teens. Everyone has to go through their teenage years. In the modern world, everything about teenagers is unique. The way they dress is different. The way they act is different and even the way they speak. Teenagers are known to be insecure, moody, argumentative, impulsive, impressionable, reckless and rebellious.

There are several principles that may help guide teens through the demanding period. They include;

Learn to communicate

Endless verbal battles tend to leave you exhausted and discouraged and should be set aside when communicating to a teenager. When communicating to a teenager the following should be put into consideration

• No shouting. Shouting weakens your authority and provide a strategic advantage for your teen.

• A serious conference. A crisis situation calls for confidentiality. Don’t conduct it in a public place and make sure you convey without blaming or judging the seriousness of the situation.

• The limit of freedom. Explain to a teenager that you cannot set him or her free to do whatever he or she wishes.

• Apologize when you are at fault. Genuine parental apology can go a long way with a teen. It builds his or her respect for you and restores the bond between you.

• Clarity. A parent or a guardian should always state his or her intention to correct unacceptable behavior and explain what is wrong with it.

• Define the frontier of behavior. Teenagers should know that even though he or she is growing up and will soon be on his own, this does not mean that he or she can be on his own in your home.

• Make rules that you will not compromise. These rules will make your teen know that if he choose to disobey you from this point on, you will have to resort to drastic measures.

Active listening

Active listening is important in attempting to close the generational gap. A parent should listen without getting angry, without blaming and judging and without calling names. This makes teens more open.

Rules for parenting.

Parents have the right to deprive their teens of the privileges he or she has not earned.For instance, parents have the right to expect good performance in school, right to opposing crazes and right to set standards concerning their teens appearance.

Working responsibility

Home is a test laboratory where each teen can practice the art of living and hardworking. Teens need to learn about life and how to live it before assuming the responsibility of adult life. Every teen should learn to cook, care for the laundry, buy grocery, balance a budget, and care for the garden and plan social events.


Teens need motivating and reward will always appeal to them. This is one way of bringing them closer.

Never reject

You are the mature one, the teen is the immature one. A teen may reject you efforts but you must never reject him. Be firm and loving no matter how traumatic the circumstances.

Teenagers needs their parents for love, support and guidance and with that teens will always be ready to listen and talk.

On a daily basis teenagers face real problems during the most awkward growth stages of their lives. During such time, teens are exposed to some overwhelming external and internal struggles. This makes them moody, insecure, impulse, argumentative, reckless and even rebellious. This is the time when teens face common problems such as stress, depression, drinking and smoking, lack of self esteem, child abuse, peer pressure and competition and even eating disorders. Surprisingly, these problems are connected to one another and can really be frustrating. Parents, teachers and other guardians should be aware of these problems and know how to solve them to their best ability.

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